6 Tips For Spotting the Magnificent INTP Female

Written by Colleen Nevins

In the last article I wrote, I gave you the pros and cons of dating a female INTP. But how can you date one if you can’t find her? So today I bring to you some tips on spotting these truth seekers, deep thinkers, and knowledge keepers. You might want to grab a pen and paper, because if you want an INTP female, this will be like a scavenger hunt if you are not prepared. Get your detective skills ready. I am going to give you six locations that will assist in the process of spotting her, identifying her and tracking her down.

  1. Social gatherings. We are not very big on social gatherings. We prefer to be alone most of the time so we can think and get lost in our thoughts, but our friends will occasionally drag us out of our palace- also known as our room. So in a social place, a club, a bar scene, a party, just to name a few, look for the girl chilling in the corner observing everything going on around her. Most of the time, she will not be in the middle of the room partaking in the fun . We like to observe and take in what is going on… analyze the environment. If you see a girl like that, more than likely she is an INTP.  She could also be the one with her friends who is not engaging in small talk and staring off into space.
  1. Dating sites. I have not done in-depth research to see how many of us are on dating sites, however, I know from experience- I was on one for a short period of time. It’s just an educated guess, but I think you’ll have better luck finding an INTP there than at a social gathering, being that we love our room. Just make sure to engage her with questions about the deep mysteries of life or philosophies and theories, and do not bore her with small talk or appeals to emotion. Avoid flattery. If this strikes her interest and she engages in conversation, then you have indeed discovered an INTP.
  1. Internet forums. I really do not need to say much about this one. You can find her on these- ones that are specifically for personality types and pretty much any other ones. She will be the one that may say things that nobody finds funny and still laughs about it. She may be the one to argue a point that she is passionate about, and she will not engage in small talk, only deep things involving logic and theories- emotion is not allowed. Word of caution: some of these forums strictly state they are not pick-up places or dating sites, so enter at your own risk.
  1. The movies. You can find her at the movies. Short and to the point, she will be the one, more than likely, by herself. It won’t be a romantic movie; try drama or science-fiction. She will possibly be sitting in the corner, avoiding the middle at all costs.
  1. The park. If you are a nature person, you can find her at the park. She will be the one lost in a book, or maybe even a few books. There is nothing more to add to that.
  1. The library. Just go to the library. Any girl you see at a table lost in a nonfiction book with a stack of encyclopedias sitting next to her is probably an INTP.

I have given you six places to spot or look for a female INTP. Some commonplace locations and some that maybe you would have never thought of. So happy hunting on finding your magnificent female INTP. Now, I am going back to bury my head in my books. Please, if you have any questions, do ask and I will answer as best as I can from my point of view as a female INTP. Peace.

About the author

Colleen Nevins

Colleen Nevins is an editor with two quirky introverted teens and a preteen. She loves to read non-fiction and self-development books in her free time as well as write poetry. She is currently working on a memoir that chronicles her relationship with an alcoholic, and how she came out looking at life in a whole different perspective. Follow her on Twitter @INTPCHICK


    • Colleen Nevins says:

      Thank you istpfanatic

  • When I go to the movies alone I sit in the seat with the best view of the screen, usually in the middle, and little to the left.

    And going for a walk in the park is to think about what I’ve read, not to actually read. To really read I need a quiet room with a computer so I can research interesting information from my books.

    Other than that, you’re pretty close.

  • When I go to the movies, I’ll probably sit where the best view is with consideration towards the amount of people around me. Near the isle on the middle with the row in front and behind empty, but I single stranger all the way on the other side in my row so I don’t stand out and bring attention to myself. If the movie hasn’t started and the lights are on or if I’m late and the movie’s begun, I’ll sit all the way in the back or near the front.
    I go to the park to take walks and let my mind wander or to exercise (run) and push myself (more mentally than physically and along the lines of presenting a challenge and trying not to resent myself and facts about health and family history and the like)

    If I’m immersed at the library, do not think so much of yourself to sit down at my table and make yourself comfortable (Unless you can distract me with intellectual, philosophical, hypothetical, or other type of talk). You invade my privacy. No, I don’t look lonely, I like being alone. You can even strike up a (brief) conversation with me and it’ll probably keep you on my mind for a bit but I need my safe island sanctuary when talking to strangers with anything deeper than a greeting.

    Then again, I am an assertive INTP that’s a bit strong in her introversion…

    …sorry for the word vomit..

  • what about getting bored of ?

  • Rafael Silva says:

    INTP male here. I’ve never dated and believe to never have acquainted a female INTP; I’d love to, though.. So fine, I know how to spot ’em, thing is, being an INTP myself, It’s hard to begin a conversation out of thin air, and even more rare for me, devise a dialogue wich could be seen as interesting for the other part, so, what are your suggestions?

    • When you see her, approach her with a thought-provoking or controversial topic. As it progresses, passionate delivery is generally acceptable and expected. Just be sure to keep in mind that it’s a debate, not an argument and you’ll be fine. And yes, skip the pleasantries of introducing yourself and making small talk. Not needed with her. If you’re a worthy adversary, she won’t forget to ask your name. Forcing her into small talk even if it’s just for 15 seconds is already starting off on the wrong foot. It’s definitely possible to redeem yourself, but why waste the time? The INTP female is finally the first female you will meet that you don’t have to resort to the mundane rules and nuisances of modern dating and extroverted impositions AND she can keep up with you intellectually. But as an INTP male, I’m sure all about not following rules or beliefs that are illogical for the situation at hand.

  • I do love the library but only to pick up books to take back to my palace. I love going to the movies alone, if there’s something showing that really interests me, otherwise I will wait and watch it in my palace. Internet forums are great but again, the topic must interest me. I prefer my fenced in yard to a public park any day. I have never tried internet dating and have only a very mild interest in doing so. If I did, it would be more out of curiosity than actually going on a date. Social gatherings are not a favorite, even ones where I have high comfort with the people involved. I’d rather just stay in my palace. I love my palace. Lol

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